“No one is a slut. “Slut” is a made-up word to keep women from having as much fun as men. A person who enjoys sex is just a person and a person who is a virgin is also just a person and everyone should lay off each other’s sex lives. Retire the word “slut” please.”—20 Things We Need To Stop Talking About In 2013 (via sexuallthrill)
Recently I have been indulging people in conversation on Fetlife. Some people strike up interesting conversations, but most just are there to jump the line.
A few are asking for my number, or to meet with out any conversation on intention, or shared interests. I know it’s great to go out and meet new people, but can any one guess, over Facebook and Fetlife alone, how many men (and some women) ask me to go out on dates? I often reject as I don’t know them at all, and they only know me through this model persona. I have had some negative responses, which is kind of juvenile.
Every one assumes because I promote this Amythia Darling as a sexual sweet heart, that I will be that to them in real life. It’s an online fantasy. I am not lying about me, there is definitely a part of my real life that is promiscuous and sexy, but I have written about how it is not my complete life. I just enjoy expressing it as Amythia Darling.
Most of the people who ask me out on these kind of dates barely even read up on me. If people were really in to me, they could easily find out that I am married, and also, pregnant at the moment. I am sure that may shut some guys up on wanting to go on this date with me.
Fetlife and Facebook are not solely used for hooking up. I use both mainly to keep my foot in the local scene, as well as organize and promote Crimson Events.
I know it is assuming of me to write off guys who maybe are just looking for a friend, but there is a different way to write messages online when you are just curious about a friendship, and you are looking to hook up or hit on me. In an online message, I can only go by what you have written as well as your user name and profile image, and maybe your profile if I decided to click on it (there are no other social cues, or facial expressions to tell me anything else). When all your photos are of your penis, what does that say to me? What assumptions do you think I am going to come to? I am going to think all those images of your penis are representational of your interests and intentions on this site.
I am not pointing out one or two guys. This is over many, many messages from very similar types of people.
I think I am going back to ignoring certain messages when I assume they are not going to be fruitful.
For those who are actually interested in knowing me, try asking me some questions about what I do, or offer up some information about your self. I am not actively looking for dates, so if you really want in, you will have to do the work.
man how I manage to keep missing out on making paintings of you ill never know. because you are as beautiful and talented as they come!! look at you!!! very very inspiring I think this new yr I will make it a resolution to paint you!!